Are you where you’re supposed to be? What are you supposed to be doing? Stop. We’re about halfway through the year. It’s a good time to take stock. Are you where you hoped, or thought you would be?
Well, the good news is you are exactly where you are supposed to be. I was reminded of that again at this year’s Camp Grounded, a digital detox summer camp for adults. I went to a session last month up in the redwoods in Mendocino. You could check out workshops on hip hop dancing, or cuddle therapy, or build a sweat lodge, or learn to play the ukulele. You could do a ropes course, or play with typewriters, or make a prop for the camp play in the art barn. You could take a walk in the woods. You could make a new friend over kombucha.
One of the camp’s ideas was this was all FOMO-free. They reminded us we were exactly where we were supposed to be, so whatever we chose to do was just right in that moment. (And if we ever felt it wasn’t right, we could go do something else!)
I’ve taken that idea back home with me. Now, every hour of the day, I literally ask myself what I want to do right now. Yes, I have commitments, but there is more time than you think in your day. I can’t speak for folks with children or a dependent loved one, as I know your commitments skyrocket, which can be great in itself. But even so, you have some time each day that is just yours. What do you want to do with that free time? What makes you happy? What brings you joy?
Or if I’m with someone, I’ll ask, "Hey, if you could do anything right now what would it be?" And we’ll do that to the best of our ability. I once ended up in a rented convertible headed to Laguna Beach for a crazy weekend.
Guess, what? You can make positive changes in your life and choose to bring in more of the things that make you truly happy. A lot of our students at Jaunty want to make new friends. They want richer social lives and deeper connection, but they aren’t sure how to make it happen. We can help by offering the social intelligence skills so you can go out and meet whoever you want for friendship, romantic relationships, or even professional contacts.
Give yourself permission, with good intentions, to do whatever the hell you want right now.