,By Eric Waisman, Jaunty's Founder
Big family meals, office holiday parties, and festive happy hours. There's this misconception that only introverts need alone time and extroverts can just keep going and going. Well guess, what? We all need time that's just for us. As we move into the holiday season it might seem counter-intuitive to think about alone time. But with all the awesome craziness that comes with the end of the year, it could be just what you need.
I love meeting new people, joking around with strangers, and connecting with people I care about. But as social as I am and as social as our students become, alone time is still vital. My close friends can attest to me freaking out and needing alone time after social binges.
Imagine you're lost in an underwater cave and then discover an air pocket. That's how Eric Time feels to me. Precious. Most of my best ideas, music and thoughts have come when I was alone. I think a lot. (Maybe too much, but I'll have to think about that.) Chilling out on my own, I've come up with unique ways to solve business challenges or handle relationship issues. These moments of insight come when we quiet our surroundings and our minds.
Blaise Pascal, the seventeenth century French philosopher, said, "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone." So apparently we had a hard time just being on our own way before we had smart phones and the endless internet to distract the hell out of us.
Choosing to spend time alone is different from loneliness. Alone time can be really fun and you get to do exactly what you want. When I make time for myself, I love reading, playing the guitar, exploring, having adventures, and meditating (to quiet that monkey mind). I just booked a getaway for three days in beautiful Kenwood, up in Sonoma County. I'm bringing a laptop, two books and my guitar. I hope to get some good work done and plenty of relaxing, while throwing FOMO in the wind. Will I miss out on parties, brunches, and cool events in the city that weekend? Sure. But I'll be breathing in that sweet air of Eric Time and I know I'll come home feeling recharged and ready for more.
This holiday season, in-between time with family and friends, remember to take care of yourself and make time for you too.
By Jaunty Staff Writer and Sunny Basra, Jaunty graduate
Sunny Basra has always been a bubbly person. A constant center of social gravity, she's your prototypical, natural extrovert. Originally from the Central Valley, she went on to study communication in college and now works for PepsiCo. "I'm in sales," she explains. "My job is to meet new people."
While she's always felt socially "above average," in early 2014 she wanted to add new depth to her conversation skills. This was right after she moved to San Francisco, where she found herself in social environments where she knew no one. She wanted to get past the shallow conversations that are standard fare at parties, those that feel "very surface, almost
like an interview."
Sunny found out about Jaunty and was intrigued by the free workshop. "I've always been really interested in why people behave the way they do. Any opportunity to get to learn more about this is like winning the lottery for me." After being impressed by the quality of the workshop, she signed up for Jaunty's six-week course.
While her college communication classes were "theoretical and intellectual," Jaunty's course was experience-based, with real-time feedback from the instructors—no textbooks needed.
Interestingly, when she told her colleagues, family and friends she was taking a social intelligence class, they said, "Why would you need that?" Sunny's confident and sociable demeanor had always disguised the anxiety she'd felt at times. "That's why people were so surprised... Whether you think you have social anxiety or not, everyone has some social anxiety. Some people feel a little more nervous when they're talking to new people. Other people feel more nervous with public speaking. Jaunty gave me the formula for how to communicate with others," Sunny says. "Now whatever social situation I'm in, I know I'm going to be generally successful using this formula."
With the new conversational skills she learned in the course, she no longer feels the jitters that used to come with the challenging new client cases. Now, when encountering a new client, she has an added edge in dealing with them. "My job is to build relationships over time. With cold reading and threading, I can dig deeper much quicker than before."
These skills and lessons have also been helpful in her new role as a manager. As she coaches her employees on selling strategies, she makes sure to impart key nuggets from the class. For example, she teaches them the difference between being assertive and aggressive. "It's all about your intention and your approach," she explains.
Whether at work, or a small dinner party, Jaunty's lessons have been guiding and influencing Sunny's life in subtle but impactful ways. As Sunny's journey shows, even the socially gifted can benefit from some good old fashioned education.