“Most awkward date ever,” my friend told me.
On a first date she’d gone to see “Fifty Shades of Grey.” She said they were both really uncomfortable and couldn’t wait for the lights to come up.
We definitely advocate that you don’t go to any movie on a first date, and maybe not early on either. After all it’s hard to get to know each other if you’re just sitting quietly in the dark.
I asked a newer friend to go see a movie recently. I hadn’t been to a movie in a long time and suggested we see Birdman or Fifty Shades.
We all know what she chose. We actually had an amazing time, and I kinda liked the movie. As soon as we met, we set a very comfortable frame. You can do this by putting yourself in the mindset that you’re meeting up with an old friend. Take the pressure off them by talking a bit more early on instead of asking them a lot of questions. Create trust by opening up with stories and using touch. We are not acting…we’re bringing out the part of ourselves that does feel this way.
It’s only awkward if you make it awkward.
That’s a golden rule here at Jaunty. Something we pride ourselves on is creating frame. Listen up because this shit is the most important lesson when you are not 100% comfortable in a situation. It’s called your frame. Frame is how you see the world. You can change your frame and others will follow that frame. We talk about this in our cohort a lot because having the right frame changes everything.
Have you ever had a whole new world of possibilities opened up to you in a short amount of time?
If you won the Powerball and educated yourself on managing money, your frame on wealth, resources, business, and stress would change.
Imagine you live in a fast food town where most people drive everywhere and spend their free time drinking beer in front of the TV. Then you move to a health conscious city, join a gym, and create healthy eating, drinking and sleeping habits. Your frame on what you can do physically would completely change.
If you work on interpersonal skills and learn to manage your social anxiety, your relationships frame completely changes.
They key is seeing slow but sure progress and validating results. Before long, you get so good that you can make going to Fifty Shades of Grey with a newer friend the most normal thing in the world. And you can make it comfortable for you and the other person. As for things with me and my date, we totally connected and want to see each other again soon. Possibly tonight.