What Is Chemistry With Someone? A Coach’s Honest Take
Most people think chemistry is something you find. Either it’s there with someone or it isn’t, and there’s nothing you can really do about it.
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Eric Waisman is the founder of Jaunty, the live social skills training company he started in San Francisco in 2013. He has taught social skills for 15+ years, and more than 10,000 students have trained with Jaunty’s instructors and actors in live classes and coaching.
Eric is the author of Approach, a practical guide to the first seconds of a conversation, and the founder of Composed, an AI assistant that helps people write better dating messages. His articles on the Jaunty blog cover starting conversations, reading social cues, flirting, dating, banter and building real confidence, drawn from years of teaching live classes.
Jaunty is based in the San Francisco Bay Area and teaches students online, with in-person coaching and classes coming to select cities.
Most people think chemistry is something you find. Either it’s there with someone or it isn’t, and there’s nothing you can really do about it.
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